Text: Genesis 18:19
God was talking of Abraham here, saying:
” Yes, I’ve settled on him as the one to train his children and… family to observe God’s way of life; live kindly and generously and fairly… ” -(Message Bible).
The family belongs to the man, it does not belong to the woman. The responsibility of building a strong and healthy family,and raising godly children (ie children that God can use, at any stage in their lives, to make the difference in their society and the world at large), is solely the man’s, not his wife’s. His wife is given to him to help him in fulfilling this assignment, and not to take it over from him.
IT’S MORE THAN MATERIAL PROVISIONS!
You see many men think that the most important thing, or all they owe their wives and children is to make plenty of money to pay house rent (or build a well-furnished house), pay school fees, buy fine cars, good clothes and give them a holiday abroad… Not so, dear sir!
AS FOR HUSBANDHOOD…
Ephesians 5:25 says:
” The husband provides leadership for his wife just like Christ does for the Church… ”
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the Church… ”
Can you now see, sir, that this is not a responsibility that just financial power or your position in the office or the society can fulfil for you? Neither can your professional or academic prowess do that for you. It takes a differet kind of power that comes from knowing and understanding what God (not your family or tradition) requires of you as a husband (read Jeremiah 5:4; 1Peter 3:7).
Isaiah 51:17a says, “Everyone is dull-hearted (brutish, senseless) without knowledge.. ”
Only God knows how many senseless things we have done or are doing thinking we’re doing the right thing; meanwhile hurting and destabilizing our marriages, children and families without knowing it!
I tell you, sir, the responsibility of husbandhood and fatherhood is more than all these ephemeral things. Beign a good husband to your wife,a good father to your children and offering quality leadership to your family,are spiritual assignments that actually determine the quality of marriage, children and family you give to God and the society at the end of the day.
AS FOR FATHERHOOD…
Isaiah 38:19b says,
” The father shall make known your truth to the children. ”
This demands that you know the truth yourself.
God was telling the men and heads of families (not their wives) in Deuteronomy 6:6,
” And these words which I command you today, shall be in your hearts. You shall teach them diligently to your children… ”
We can all see from all these that our quest for a better, safer and no-corruption Nigeria, goes beyond re-designing educational policies and curriculum,or hunting down our “international thief-thiefs” that oil boom has produced down the line (with many well-tutored-in-thiefry generations of them coming after them). No!
Rather,husbands and fathers (taking their wives along with them), must consciously, determinedly (and if possible, sacrificially) return to the all-
important assignment of building strong and healthy families, and raising God-fearing, God-addicted children! God’s help is available, anyday. Praise God!