Q : “Ma, boys believe that when you refuse to have sex with them during friendship, that you don’t love them. What do we do?
ADA EZEKA : Well, my dear, first of all, you have to decide whether you want to live for guys or for God. Be your own Lord, your own master (read Proverbs 25:28).
Let the Word of God control you and dictate your mindset (read Psalm 119:9, 11; Colossians 3:16).
Be so God-conscious. Let it determine your thoughts and your choices. Because if your mind is polluted your whole life will be polluted. I tell you! And a polluted mind can never produce a great life. Sanctify your thoughts for a great destiny.
I once heard Myles Monroe say, “Be so busy serving God that He has to disturb you to get married.” Yes!
Any man or boy that defiles you has taken something very precious from you that can never be recovered. Don’t let anyone do that to you young girl!
Girls, create such a fire around you that discourages that spirit of lust in the guys. Sex is good; sex is not a sin; but it’s only for a male and female who are married to each other. That’s why 1Corinthians 7:2 says: “But because of sexual immorality, let every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband. ”
We also read in Genesis 4:1 that Adam had sex with “his WIFE (not his girlfriend) Eve…”
Listen to me young girl, any man that insists on having sex with you before he marries you is not your husband; he’s a destiny-destroyer; run for your life! There’s a divine connection between sex and your destiny that goes beyond the momentary pleasure it gives. And wearing condom can’t stop what happens when you indulge in sex with somebody who is not your husband/wife (read 1Corinthians 6:16).
Please, live for tomorrow; live for purpose, not just for pleasure! Those who have a vision of a great tomorrow don’t mess with sexual immorality today! Yes!