BALANCING WORK AND MARRIAGE
Text: 1Corinthians 14:40
“Let all things be done decently and in order. ”
As much as God wants us to do whatever we do with all our might, he wants us to do it well and in order. That is, according to his ways, principles and prescribed order (Read Isaiah 55:8 -11).
In Matthew 6:33 he said to not only seek first his Kingdom, but much more, the right ways of doing things in the Kingdom.
Many Christians are not aware of this demand that walking with or working for God places on us. So they are busy doing things for God, but anyhow. Some are even doing it the world’s way, some are doing it the cultural or traditional way.
But you know, God is not an anyhow God. So whatever you do anyhow is not acceptable with him. It must be God-how! That’s why Jeremiah 5:4 says we have poor results (Read Jeremiah 5:4).
2. NOT PART TIME…
You see, you can do anything else part time and get some level of results, but not marriage and family!
Every other thing you do is about making a living, but marriage/family is about making lives. It’s about the making of men and women that God can use to POWER both his Kingdom and the society, to make the world a better place (Read Malachi 2:15).
Whatever affects or hurts our marriages and families affect God’s purpose and agenda for his world of humanity. Because the family is God’s labour marketmarket.
The failure of the first marriage and family in Eden makes that very clear. It totally sabotaged and thwarted God’s heaven-on-earth agenda. Satan took over! (Read Genesis 1:26-18; Romans 5:12)!
This is why you need to give full and great spiritual attention to your marriage and family.
As much as money is important, your marriage and family need you more than it needs your money.
That’s why I always say that we are not in marriage to make ends meet, we areare in marriage to raise “godly seeds” (children that God can use). That’s why your marriage must work.
You don’t need a fat bank account to raise children that God can use, as much as you need a strong and healthy marriage and family.
A healthy and strong marriage and family will enjoy God’s commitment and supernatural supplies always (Read Genesis 18:19; Hebrews 13:20-21; Matthew 6:33).
One day God said to me, “Don’t you know that your family is the first Kingdom ground? Whatever you do, give or invest in your family, you’re doing it for the Kingdom, and I will reward you!”
Can you now see that it is foolishness to neglect your marriage and family for your Ministry, business, job, career, etc?
That also means that your success in any of these does not impress God, if your marriage and family are nothing to write home about! Oh yes!
Nothing else you give your time, energy and money to is as important to God as your marriage and family. God rates a man by the quality of his marriage and family, not by his success in Ministry/career/business or his bank account.
Your testimony of success in Ministry, business or career is not complete without a proven testimony of success in marriage and family life (1Timothy 3:1-4; Job 1:1-3; Genesis 18:19). Alleluia!
Infact, if you don’t have a good marriage and family life, God cannot trust you! The whole world may be celebrating you, but as far as God is concerned, you’re a collossal failure!
Marriage is THE RELATIONSHIP between a man and a woman who have been LEGALLY joined together as husband and wife. It is a partnership that requires the two key players’ total (not part time,nonchalant, careless or half-hearted) commitment for it to twork profitably (Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12; Ephesians 5:22-31; Romans 11:12).
4: THE FAMILY IS…
In God’s definition, the family is the man, his wife and his children. And from Scriptures I have seen that God talks about the family with reference to the man, not the woman (Genesis 18:19 ; Psalm 115:12-14; 1 Timothy 3:1-4).
This is because the family belongs to the man, not his wife. So, if you’re not man enough in your family, how can God see you as man enough for his work or for anyone else?
– Dr. Ada Ezeka