Guday mum I saw your last post, I have a question for you…

What if a girl has a friend, and they are both in a geniune relationship that wil lead to marriage, and this friend has been suportive of her acdemics and career, and they both agree to go and wed first… Because the lady wil be joining the man where he is based – because of some reasons, they can’t afford the dowry payment before the wedding.

Then after the proper church wedding in two or 3 months time, they can go and perform the traditional rights.

Is it proper? Can they have sex wit each oder after wedding?

By all standards (scripture, tradition, society), girl, if your dowry was not been paid, both heaven and earth don’t know you are married. Believe me!

Proper marriage is not a private affair! A man who can’t pay your dowry “because of some reasons” is not yet qualified to wed you, talk of having sex with you.

Marriage is authenticated by dowry payment (not just “wedding” – whether court or church wedding. Read Genesis 24).

Whatever must last, and above all, enjoy God’s approval and blessing, must begin with a good foundation (Acts 2 vs 22; Psalm 11 vs 3).

Make God and your parents proud girls, follow the “due process”. It pays!



Text: Genesis 2:18-24
2Corinthians 5:17

Womanhood is: the ministry of the woman .

It is the woman actively engaged fulfilling the purpose for which she was created a woman…

Proverbs 31:10-31 gives us a detailed picture of womanhood, ie, the ministry of the woman. Please read it.

This picture makes it very clear that womanhood has nothing to do with the woman’s looks or physical features, but rather describes her assignment and God-determined purpose for creating the woman.

That’s why I always say, “Womanhood is not a gender issue, it’s an issue of assignment /responsibility that cannot be delegated.

Ruth 1:9 and 4:11-12 (MSG) also throw more light on the ministry of the woman. Read it, please.

The woman was created for marriage.

Yes! Marriage is the woman’s natural habitat (just like water is for the fish).

Note that God made the man and put him in the garden to work, but God made the woman and put her inside marriage.

Marriage is the woman’s world of the greatest joy and fulfillment in life – not money, her job, career, business or profession. No!

That is why when a woman is not yet married, no matter what else she is or has, or how rich and comfortable her father’s house is, her joy is not full.
And that’s why God sets the solitary in families (Psalm 68 :6).

God’s original plan and ultimate purpose for everyone born a female is to be settled in her own marriage and family. As for men, they are not that obsessed about marriage…Their own is work, work, work! That’s what empowers their sense of manhood, and gives them the greatest fulfilment.

Womanhood begins in earnest for every woman inside marriage.

It’s a three-dimensional ministry that begins after wedding – wifehood, motherhood and homemaking – Titus 2:3-5.

Womanhood is an awesome ministry that places such a great responsibility on the woman, that determines the man’s future, that of the children, the family, and consequently the nation and it’s various facets.

That is why we are talking about womanhood in the power of the new creation.

Because in Adam, sin totally displaced the woman, corrupted and limited her God given ability and capacity to fulfil the awesome task of womanhood, and consequently robbed her of the dignity and honour that God intended her for – Genesis 3.

But thank God, now, in Christ Jesus, the woman is once again fully empowered to succeed, without any limits, and to overcome all the limitations that sin introduced into her life and purpose – Galatians 6:15.

The new creation woman (the woman in Christ: blessed with every good thing that is in Christ), is a super woman,with limitless power to make it, in spite of all odds in her marriage and family life.




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