TO SUCCEED AS A HUSBAND…

YOU NEED GOD!
Do you know….
It’s one thing to be a Bishop, Pastor, President, Governor or CEO, etc…
And it’s completely another thing to be a HUSBAND?

Being a husband requires a different kind of knowledge, training, mindset and approach…

You can succeed in any of these other occupations without God…

But to succeed as a husband (a God-given assignment), you need God… Big time! Yes!

#DrAdaEzeka

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DON’T TEACH YOUR CHILDREN WITH HARDSHIP!

A SINCERE COUNSEL FOR PARENTS WHO CARE…

If you can afford good things, please let your children enjoy it…

Don’t subject them to the same experience as children of the poor… And say you’re teaching them something…What kind of “something” is that?…

Poverty and hardship don’t teach anything positive jor…

FOR INSTANCE…

Don’t let your children trek, ride “keke”or “inaga?” to school when they can be chauffeur-driven…It might teach them what you never imagined…I tell you!

After all, it’s not their fault that they’re born into a better life than you had…

So don’t teach them what you suffered… Just teach them the Word of God… It will raise them right…better than any experience…
God-like fathers give their children good things!
(Matthew 7:11). Selah!

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TIME FOR SOUL SEARCHING…

THAT ONE THING
I just came to a very striking and awakening realization that…
– the things that will matter in your life
– the things that will really, really matter to your life
– the things that will ever add real value to your life (among many other things that present themselves to you as important and needful)
– the things that will add peace, joy and real lasting fulfilment to your life…

Will require your concentrated ( not fleeting, careless) ATTENTION. Yes!

Even as I speak, do some soul searching…

Whatever it is you’re getting the best result from; whatever it is in your life that you believe is giving you joy and fulfilment right now, evaluate the quality of time and attention you gave to it, compared to the attention you gave to other things that you believe are not giving you as much joy, success and contentment.

And do you know, you determinedly continue to give your attention and the best of your valuable time to that thing without knowing it…even at the expense of some other things in your life?

So much so that you consider it a sacrifice, when you make time to give attention to any other thing.

THE QUESTION IS…
But the question is, this one thing that you have given the best of your attention to…that you believe is giving you all the joy, satisfaction, empowerment and fulfilment you want (could be your job, business, career, boyfriend, girlfriend, addiction, or that secret affair), only you know deep down in your heart…

The question, I say, is…
– is it what matters the most?
– is it really what God wants for you?
– how is it affecting other things in your life (your marriage, family, health, job, business, relationships, etc)…
– how is it affecting your wife, children, father, mother, siblings, friends, church, your relationship with God, etc?

Now I understand why God is literally begging us to “Give attention to my word…”
( Read Proverbs 4:20; Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1:1-3; Colossians 3:16).

Because God knows how giving attention to anything can totally take over your life…

What he is actually advocating here, is that we dedicate our concentrated attention to the primary thing that will guarantee us total joy, peace, success and fulfilment in other things that matter in our lives that we may not have time for…

He said, “thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and thou shalt have good success”

That is, give the best of your attention to this one thing, and it will take care of every other thing in your life, without you having to tear yourself apart to create a balance in your life…

Mmmmmmmn…I really need to stop now! I hope this blesses you…and sparks off in you,, something that will make the difference in your life this year!

#DrAdaEzeka

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DYSFUNCTIONAL MARRIAGES CREATE DYSFUNCTIONAL CHILDREN!

PLEASE, SPARE YOUR CHILDREN!

Text: Malachi 2:15; Proverbs 22:6

Do you know that the greatest hurt and damage that children suffer in the home is not their parent’s inability to give them a good education, good food, good clothes, a comfortable home or the bare necessities of life? No!

It is living and growing up in a choking and debilitating atmosphere created by their parent’s troubled marriages!

The constant strife, arguing, quarelling, abuses, fighting and suppressed animosity and pretended unity between dad and mom, is literally stunting the children’s growth, axphysiating their intelligence and corrupting their hearts!

They’re not talking! And their parents are too consumed by their own selfish desires and expectations of each other to even notice what their unhealthy relationship is doing to the children!

It is children from such homes that grow up to become victims of juvenile delinquency, cultism, armed robbery and other societal vices!

They’re the ones that become lesbians and homosexuals, rapists, cleptomaniacs, shoplifters, etc – totally dysfunctional children! Created by terribly dysfunctional marriages! God have mercy!

I tell you, whether we know it or not, it’s our marriages that create the atmosphere called home, in which our children grow up and are prepared for adult roles.

This atmosphere could either be cloudy or sunshiny…! Just think about it…

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HE DOESN’T WANT MARRIAGE!

ANSWERING YOUR QUESTIONS ON RELATIONSHIP...

STELLA:
Ma, for six months now, I have bee in a relationship with a guy (he’s a Pastor)…I love him…
He once told me that he’s not interested in marriage. Two days ago, he repeated the same statement…
Should I continue with the relationship?

DR. ADDRA EZEKA :
Since the guy has told you he’s not interested in marriage, what’s the point?
How old are you?

STELLA :
I’m 23.

DR. ADA EZEKA:
You see, you don’t have time for boyfriend /girlfriend. Or for a relationship that is not going anywhere…
At this age, you should be in a relationship that is heading towards marriage…
Why invest your love, time and energy in a man who will soon take a walk and leave you cheated and defrauded?
Then when you eventually marry, you’ll be struggling to bond with the man who is now your husband…
Are you born again?

STELLA:
Yes ma.

DR. ADA EZEKA:
Good. There’s no boyfriend /girlfriend in Christianity…
Any intimate relationship between the opposite sex in Christianity should begin with, ” Will you marry me?”.

And once the lady says “Yes”, then, a relatioship begins…

Courtship and dating begin, for the purpose of getting to know each other better, building the relationship and friendship…

That way, the feelings, time, prayer or gifts you both invest in the relationship, the harvests will be waiting for you in the marriage you’re both preparing for.

God hates waste! He expects us to enjoy profit from any labour we engage in…He wants you to reap a harvest (not pain, frustration or losses) from whatever you sow…
Tell me, have you guys slept together?

STELLA : No ma!

DR. ADA EZEKA:
Very good! Now, break the relationship and focus on God, and preparing yourself for the husband that is yours…

You were created to be found, not to look for, or bother your head about a husband (Proverbs 18:22)…

When the man who is your husband comes, he will come with “Will you marry me? “, not for a fling or a roll in the hay…

So, spend time praying in the Holy Ghost, so that when that man comes, you will be sensitive to identify him with a definite witness in your spirit (not with your head, feelings or eyes). Read 1Corinthians 2:9-13…

Because he may not look like the husband of your dream…But assuredly, God’s dream for you. Oh yes!😁😁😁!

Now, I pray God’s wisdom, grace and favour upon you, for sensitivity, direction, boldness, courage and wise decision, in Jesus precious name! You are blessed, my dear!

Please, keep in touch, okay?

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HAPPY FAMILY

LISTEN…

Whatever you’re pursuing in life, or that is taking more of your time, money, energy, etc…is not as important to God as your family.

God never sees you as complete, or totally fulfilled without a happy family or marital well-being!

(For more teachings on marriage and family life, watch my #FamilyLifeUniversity #Lectures on Youtube; or follow me on Instagram: @adaezeezeka; Facebook: Ada Ezeka).

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TAKE RESPONSIBILITY!

Do you know choice is a responsibility? Yes!…

Do you know decision is a responsibility? Oh yes…

It requires a lot of thinking…

– a strong sense of mission /purpose…

– collation of facts…

– considering options…

– putting things in perspective…

– looking beyond now/today…

Great responsibility!

No wonder many are quick to shift it to God…
“Lord if it is your will…”
“God, pls tell me, should I marry this man/woman? “… etc…

And God will just be watching…

Because he has already given you the responsibility to choose/decide…(Deuteronomy 30:19…)

Remember Jesus in the garden of Getsemani? (Matthew 26)...

Three times, he pleaded…
“Abba, Father, nothing is impossible with you… Please make this choice for me… “

God just kept quiet…
Yes, choice/decision, is a great responsibility…

#DrAdaEzeka

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