Ma, for six months now, I have bee in a relationship with a guy (he’s a Pastor)…I love him…
He once told me that he’s not interested in marriage. Two days ago, he repeated the same statement…
Should I continue with the relationship?

Since the guy has told you he’s not interested in marriage, what’s the point?
How old are you?

I’m 23.

You see, you don’t have time for boyfriend /girlfriend. Or for a relationship that is not going anywhere…
At this age, you should be in a relationship that is heading towards marriage…
Why invest your love, time and energy in a man who will soon take a walk and leave you cheated and defrauded?
Then when you eventually marry, you’ll be struggling to bond with the man who is now your husband…
Are you born again?

Yes ma.

Good. There’s no boyfriend /girlfriend in Christianity…
Any intimate relationship between the opposite sex in Christianity should begin with, ” Will you marry me?”.

And once the lady says “Yes”, then, a relatioship begins…

Courtship and dating begin, for the purpose of getting to know each other better, building the relationship and friendship…

That way, the feelings, time, prayer or gifts you both invest in the relationship, the harvests will be waiting for you in the marriage you’re both preparing for.

God hates waste! He expects us to enjoy profit from any labour we engage in…He wants you to reap a harvest (not pain, frustration or losses) from whatever you sow…
Tell me, have you guys slept together?

STELLA : No ma!

Very good! Now, break the relationship and focus on God, and preparing yourself for the husband that is yours…

You were created to be found, not to look for, or bother your head about a husband (Proverbs 18:22)…

When the man who is your husband comes, he will come with “Will you marry me? “, not for a fling or a roll in the hay…

So, spend time praying in the Holy Ghost, so that when that man comes, you will be sensitive to identify him with a definite witness in your spirit (not with your head, feelings or eyes). Read 1Corinthians 2:9-13…

Because he may not look like the husband of your dream…But assuredly, God’s dream for you. Oh yes!šŸ˜šŸ˜šŸ˜!

Now, I pray God’s wisdom, grace and favour upon you, for sensitivity, direction, boldness, courage and wise decision, in Jesus precious name! You are blessed, my dear!

Please, keep in touch, okay?


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