FAMILY LIFE UNIVERSITY JUNE EDITION

Lecture Topic:

BECOMING THE PERSON FOR THE SUCCESS YOU DESIRE IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

Text: 2 Timothy 2:15

‭‭“Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth.”

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1. INTRODUCTION

* Many don’t seem to realize that marriage is work…

* As much work as that their business, career, job or Ministry, infact.

* There is nothing you want to achieve in this life that does not require work – including success in marriage.

* And because #marriage is work, it requires massive investments…

* Your person, time, energy, resources, and all.

* The more of these you invest into your marriage, the greater the success, beauty, peace and joy of your marriage.

* Every marriage is destined by God to be great…

* But unfortunately, not every couple puts in what is required to achieve that greatness.

* Your diligent investments into your marriage is what makes the difference.

* If you have a poor and nonchalant attitude towards your marriage, it can never be a profitable and successful marriage as God designed it to be.

* Proverbs 14:23 says, ” In all labour there is profit…”

* Also, Ecclesiastes 4:9 says,

‭‭“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.”

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* God designed marriage for profit – both for him, for you and for his world of humanity…

2. YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT THE PROBLEM!

* Many are suffering so much frustration in their marriage.

* And it’s sad that they very quickly consider separation, or divorce as the way out.

* And there is this deception, where the husband believes it’s his wife that is the problem…

* And the wife is there also, strongly convinced that her husband is the problem.

* So the husband is wishing his wife would change and become a better wife…

* While the wife is earnestly desiring, and even praying for her husband to change.

* Most of the time what they actually want is for the other to squeeze into their own mold…

* So much so that it almost becomes impossible for either of them to see and accept the other for who he or she is.

* As long as the husband, or the wife is not fitting into their dream husband or wife, the marriage, as far as they’re concerned, is not working…How selfish!

2.WHO ARE YOU? * The question however is: who are you?

* What kind of a husband /wife are you?

* What kind of personality are you doing marriage with?

* Do you even know what it means to be a husband/wife?

* Who did you learn it from?

* There is a person to be for the success you desire and long for in your marriage.

* Are you that person?

* What kind of husband /wife would you say you are?

* Examine yourself! Read :

– Haggai 1:5

– 1Corinthians 11:28

– Matthew 7:3

3. THERE IS WHO TO BECOME…

* There is a quality of person you must become to achieve the success you desire in your marriage.

* You can’t be doing marriage with a quality of personality and character below what is required of you, and expect your marriage to work.

* Jeremiah 5:4 says,

But what can we expect from the poor? They are ignorant. They don’t know the ways of the Lord. They don’t m God’s laws.”

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* There is who to be to succeed as a husband – you must be a husband.

* And there is who to be to succeed as a wife – you must be a wife.

* If you choose to remain anyhow, you can kiss a good marriage goodbye – it’s not for you.

BECOME MORE

* In any area you want more results, you have a responsibility to become more than you presently are…Read 2 Peter 1:5-8.

* It’s no use waiting for things to change, or for the other person to change.

* Change places on you the personal responsibility of self examination, self discipline and self improvement.

* I always say that when you expand your knowledge base, you automatically increase your success rate.

* Stop blaming somebody else for why things are not working…Take responsibility!

* It may even be that the person you’re waiting for to see better results, believe they have done all they know to do…

* So you keep waiting in vain…And Proverbs 13:12 says:

Hope defered makes the heart sick…”

* So, depression, bitterness, intolerance and aggression set in… * And your marriage begins to take a nose dive…

4. CHANGE YOU!

* But my message for you today is, if your spouse refuses to change…

* Instead of giving up on him/her, or your marriage, you, do something…

* Change the you that you’ve been doing marriage with…

* Strive to master your emotion,s, your appetites, your negative inclinations, habits or even addiction.

* Don’t say, that’s who I am, or, I can’t help it – Of course you can! Philippians 4:13 says,

“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”

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* Let self discipline be your watch word – Galatians 5:22-23.

* Be resolute and undaunted about it…

* Refuse to be discouraged… and see things begin to change for good…As God’s reward for your labour of love.

#DrAdaEzeka

#marriageiswork #marriage #husbandandwife #relationship

#changeyou #couples

NEVER SABOTAGE THE ANOINTING…

EXPECT TO RECEIVE SOMETHING, NOT TO…

When you come face to face with the anointing, expect to receive something, not to fall.

Many are more interested in falling than in receiving something.

The anointing doesn’t come to make you fall, but to do you good…Yes!

Acts 10:38 says, “How God anointed Jesus Christ …who went about doing good…” – not falling people down.

Whether you fall or not is irrelevant…God is more interested in your receiving something than in your falling.

The lame man at the beautiful gate looked steadfastly at Peter and John, “expecting to receive something” – and he did, praise God! Read the story in Acts 3:1-6.

The woman with the issue of blood had her heart set on touching the hem of Jesus’ garment (not on falling under the anointing he carried). And when she did, she got her healing – without falling under the anointing. Read the story in Mark 5:25-34.

Read your Bible, you’ll see many more examples in the Ministry of Jesus, and that of the Apostles.

Listen, we are in the age of “the word of faith which we preach”…And “the word of his grace, which is able to build you up and (deliver to you whatever you desire from your) inheritance in Christ.”

So stop judging how powerful a man or woman of God, or his/her preaching is by whether people fall under the anointing in his/her Ministry.

Never sabotage the anointing when it comes your way…You May never have another opportunity of divine encounter…I tell you!

(See, I was just inspired to tell you this…take it, or leave it for the person it’s meant for,okay? You are blessed!)

– Dr Ada Ezeka

– motivation #rightthinking

#mindset #rightbelieving #theanointing

#miracles #healing