Lecture Topic:


Text: 2 Timothy 2:15

‭‭“Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth.”



* Many don’t seem to realize that marriage is work…

* As much work as that their business, career, job or Ministry, infact.

* There is nothing you want to achieve in this life that does not require work – including success in marriage.

* And because #marriage is work, it requires massive investments…

* Your person, time, energy, resources, and all.

* The more of these you invest into your marriage, the greater the success, beauty, peace and joy of your marriage.

* Every marriage is destined by God to be great…

* But unfortunately, not every couple puts in what is required to achieve that greatness.

* Your diligent investments into your marriage is what makes the difference.

* If you have a poor and nonchalant attitude towards your marriage, it can never be a profitable and successful marriage as God designed it to be.

* Proverbs 14:23 says, ” In all labour there is profit…”

* Also, Ecclesiastes 4:9 says,

‭‭“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.”


* God designed marriage for profit – both for him, for you and for his world of humanity…


* Many are suffering so much frustration in their marriage.

* And it’s sad that they very quickly consider separation, or divorce as the way out.

* And there is this deception, where the husband believes it’s his wife that is the problem…

* And the wife is there also, strongly convinced that her husband is the problem.

* So the husband is wishing his wife would change and become a better wife…

* While the wife is earnestly desiring, and even praying for her husband to change.

* Most of the time what they actually want is for the other to squeeze into their own mold…

* So much so that it almost becomes impossible for either of them to see and accept the other for who he or she is.

* As long as the husband, or the wife is not fitting into their dream husband or wife, the marriage, as far as they’re concerned, is not working…How selfish!

2.WHO ARE YOU? * The question however is: who are you?

* What kind of a husband /wife are you?

* What kind of personality are you doing marriage with?

* Do you even know what it means to be a husband/wife?

* Who did you learn it from?

* There is a person to be for the success you desire and long for in your marriage.

* Are you that person?

* What kind of husband /wife would you say you are?

* Examine yourself! Read :

– Haggai 1:5

– 1Corinthians 11:28

– Matthew 7:3


* There is a quality of person you must become to achieve the success you desire in your marriage.

* You can’t be doing marriage with a quality of personality and character below what is required of you, and expect your marriage to work.

* Jeremiah 5:4 says,

But what can we expect from the poor? They are ignorant. They don’t know the ways of the Lord. They don’t m God’s laws.”


* There is who to be to succeed as a husband – you must be a husband.

* And there is who to be to succeed as a wife – you must be a wife.

* If you choose to remain anyhow, you can kiss a good marriage goodbye – it’s not for you.


* In any area you want more results, you have a responsibility to become more than you presently are…Read 2 Peter 1:5-8.

* It’s no use waiting for things to change, or for the other person to change.

* Change places on you the personal responsibility of self examination, self discipline and self improvement.

* I always say that when you expand your knowledge base, you automatically increase your success rate.

* Stop blaming somebody else for why things are not working…Take responsibility!

* It may even be that the person you’re waiting for to see better results, believe they have done all they know to do…

* So you keep waiting in vain…And Proverbs 13:12 says:

Hope defered makes the heart sick…”

* So, depression, bitterness, intolerance and aggression set in… * And your marriage begins to take a nose dive…


* But my message for you today is, if your spouse refuses to change…

* Instead of giving up on him/her, or your marriage, you, do something…

* Change the you that you’ve been doing marriage with…

* Strive to master your emotion,s, your appetites, your negative inclinations, habits or even addiction.

* Don’t say, that’s who I am, or, I can’t help it – Of course you can! Philippians 4:13 says,

“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”


* Let self discipline be your watch word – Galatians 5:22-23.

* Be resolute and undaunted about it…

* Refuse to be discouraged… and see things begin to change for good…As God’s reward for your labour of love.


#marriageiswork #marriage #husbandandwife #relationship

#changeyou #couples

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