YOU JUST FOUND OUT THAT YOUR HUSBAND /WIFE HAS A CHILD OUTSIDE MARRIAGE (BEFORE OR AFTER HE MARRIED YOU… (PT 2)
WHAT NOW? SHOULD ALL HELL BREAK LOOSE?
We were looking at what a husband or wife should do when he/she finds out that his/her wife/husband has a child from outside… THE GOD DIMENSION
I have come to understand that… * God does not do wickedness (Read Job 34:10). * There is no deceit in him (James 1:17). * He is good and upright (Psalm 92:14-15) * He makes decisions based on his love and demands the same of us (John 3:16). * He is a generation -minded God.
THE GOOD, THE PERMISIVE AND THE PERFECT WILL OF GOD
Having said all that…(in PT 1)… This is my answer:
Whatever decision you choose to take, God will neither condemn you, nor punish you. But think about the consequences of your decision on the future of that child and generations that will be birthed and affected by his life… Neither will God force a choice or decision on you. But remember that Romans 5:5 says he has poured his love in our hearts. And the reason is to ensure that our decisions are guided by his love. This love forgives! This love makes excuses for multitude of sins! This love is unselfish! This love thinks God first, others second and you last. When we make a decision for love, there’s nothing we can’t forgive and forget.
THIS IS MY WISE COUNSEL… Forgive your husband /wife. Don’t let his/her past mistake ruin your marriage…It’s not worth it!
Finally, accept that child! If you truly love your wife/husband, you should be able to love a child that is his/her’s or yours.
Both of you should agree to bring the child in (if necessary), and give him/her the same privileges your children are enjoying.
Don’t think about what people will say. It’s not important. God and tomorrow are more important! Don’t hurt so much! Remove sorrow, anger and bitterness from your heart. Let God comfort and help you. Guard the Spirit of Marriage, and be happy! Okay? (Read Malachi 2:15-16 in Message Bible or NKJV). Peace, in Jesus name! Alleluia!