MARRIAGE IS A GENERATIONAL THING
Proverbs 1:5 says,
“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning…”
If you’re not hearing, you can’t increase in learning. Somebody has to be talking to you, teaching you, for you to learn.
Proverbs 9:9 also says,
“Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser:
teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.”
The teaching Ministry is to make us wiser. So when you despise teaching, and any opportunity to learn, it means you have no value for wisdom.
In any area you increase in wisdom, you multiply your success rate. Because Proverbs 10:10b says, “…but wisdom brings success.”
Anytime you expand your knowledge base, you increase your success rate.
Which means that if you’re not being taught, if you’re not hearing, and you’re not learning, your success rate is not increasing.
Nothing just happens. It’s something added that translates to increase, growth or multiplication.
Peter told the people in 2 Peter 1:5-8.
“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
So the more you keep hearing and learning, you expand your knowledge base, and you are more fruitful, productive and effective.
And let me tell you the truth, the most important area we need to continue to expand our knowledge base is in Marriage and Family Life.
You need to begin to attach such utmost importance to your marriage and family life, that you become insatiable in your quest for knowledge concerning how to make marriage work.
This is because your marriage is not just about you. After all said and done, the products of your marriage are your children – Malachi 2:13-16.
Whatever is the quality of your marriage, it is reflected in your children. Do you understand what I’m saying?
The reason your marriage must work, is most importantly because of your children.
It’s our marriages that make our children; because our marriages make the home where the children are grown (Mark 4:1-11).
So, when they too grow up to become husbands and wives, they will, without any doubt reproduce either the success, or the failure of our own marriages – Genesis 1:11, 14.
So marriage is a generational thing. The failure, or the success of any marriage is generational. It’s the most powerful or debilitating legacy we leave for, or pass down to our children.
That should let you know that marriage doesn’t stop at, “I’m done with this marriage!”, or “I don’t want to do this marriage again!” No!
It doesn’t stop at divorce. It doesn’t stop at dissolving that marriage. The impact of the toxic or broken marriage shape the children’s lives and tomorrow. It leaves them so confused, so vulnerable and helpless! It affects everything in their lives, and some of them never recover from the damage.
So for those of you who are not yet married, you have to really shine your eyes. Marriage is not a child’s play.
As part of the necessary drill before going to the war front, a Superior was asking a military man about his family. Because it was important.
Can you imagine a soldier at the war front, who suddenly, he remembers the last heated quell he had with his wife? At that very moment of distraction, he could become a victim , or jeopardize the fate of the whole army there in the war front!
Do you know that what affects us most in our lives are our marital issues?
For instance, one of your staff can insult you and it won’t even mean anything to you. At most you just sack her. But not so if it’s your wife that insults you. One unsavory word or comment from her and the thing will keep ringing and ringing in your head. The same thing with the woman.
Do you know why? It’s because marriage is so much part of our lives. It is God that made it so.
So, please, I want you to develop a greater sense of value for your marriage.
And for those of you who are not yet married, don’t enter into marriage anyhow.
If you value your marriage, you have to also value knowledge that has to do with marriage and family life…