Category Archives: Marriage

Sex and your Marriage

Husband and wife, don’t let your sex life die; it will kill your marriage!


SEX in marriage is not just for procreation. There is something about sex that keeps the marriage alive. That’s why when a man begins to get sex outside his marriage, it begins to affect the marriage, big time.  And most times divorce follows! Because sex enhances bonding.

That’s why God ordained sex for only a man and his wife. It is to enhance the process of becoming one flesh. Let’s look at the scriptures:

“Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”1 Corinthians 6:16 New International Version (NIV)


” ¹Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried  and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry,for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.1 Corinthians 7:1-9 New International Version (NIV)

That’s why I preach against separate rooms! It is not good for fellowship and intimacy between husband and wife. Let’s see what Ecclesiastes 4: 10-12 says about that: “10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. 11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:10-12 New International Version (NIV)

If the fire has gone out or is going out in your sex life, don’t think it doesn’t matter- Take the matter to God (Matthew 18:18-19). Yes, God is interested in your sex life- “Husband, return to your wife – “Drink water from your own cistern… “, Proverbs 5:15 says. Stolen water is sweet, but it can also kill! (Read Proverbs 5 to the end)!

I believe this is rescue message for someone! God is so good, caring, merciful and committed to our joy and total well-being. Let’s co-operate with him.

God bless you!


ANONYMOUS : What should a woman facing persecution from her husband do?

ADA EZEKA : My beloved, it’s like asking, ” What should a woman facing persecution on her job do? ”  Well then, it depends on how important the job is to you, what value, profit and blessing it’s adding to you.  That is what will determine whether you want to quit the job, or endure the persecution and stay on the job, because of what it means to you and your destiny in God.


Everywhere I go, I teach women that womanhood is a ministry from God. It is God that called us women into the job of wifehood, motherhood and homemaking (Titus 2:4-5). Continue reading STAY ON THE JOB; IT’S WORTH IT!



Children  (both male and female) are born into a family, trained and empowered to make that family greater, more prosperous and comfortable than their parents ever did – totally taking the family to a new level!

So, when you go take a daughter from a family as wife, it’s supposed to be a gain not a loss to that family. So don’t become a stranger or start acting like one after you have taken their daughter with you! Don’t turn your back on that family! So that they’re not plagued by a sense of loss. No! Be more of a son that God has added to that family, than one who has come to take their daughter (and in most cases their bread-winner) away. Don’t let that family become so impoverished and neglected  because their daughter got married. No! Continue reading WISDOM FOR SINGLE/MARRIED MEN – DON’T BE A STRANGER!



I was telling a very distressed husband today (his wife just packed up and quit the  marriage!); that what husband’s don’t know is that the wife they married, is like oil or a treasure deep inside that former ‘Miss Whatever’ that they married, that needs to be rigged or dug out with lots of love, wisdom, patience and understanding. No wonder God advised husband’s to “dwell with them according to knowledge” -1 Peter 3:7. Continue reading SHE’S DEEP INSIDE!